HEALTHY DATING AND PERFECT RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR TRUE LOVE

2009-10-05T14:55:00.000-07:00

HEALTHY DATING AND PERFECT RELATIONSHIP:

HOW TO FIND YOUR TRUE LOVE;

In order to have good, successful dating and relationship experiences, you need to be Comfortable by truly being yourself, be open and friendly, and have a heart fully open to love. If both people are being this way, then you will be able to really know the other person and how it feels to be together. There won't be anything in the way of connecting with each other, and there won't be any hindrances to coming up with a clear conclusion of your compatibility. In truth, you really only want to get involved with someone who feels like a good fit with you, don’t you? The only way to tell is if both people are being themselves. Unfortunately, if you have had a hard time finding your partner, chances are that there are a number of hindrances to being yourself.

FINDING YOUR TRUE LOVE CAN BE HINDERED BY THESE REASON;

In order to have good, successful dating and relationship experiences, you need to be Comfortable truly being yourself, be open and friendly, and have a heart fully open to love. If both people are being this way, then you will be able to really know the other person and how it feels to be together. There won't be anything in the way of connecting with each other, and there won't be any hindrances to coming up with a clear conclusion of your compatibility. In truth, you really only want to get involved with someone who feels like a good fit with you, don't you? The only way to tell is if both people are being themselves. Unfortunately, if you have had a hard time finding your partner, chances are that there are a number of hindrances to being yourself.

HINDERANCES TO FINDING YOUR TRUE LOVE:

FEAR AROUND LOVE:

So, what kinds of fears might you have around love? Here are some of the common ones:
• Afraid of being rejected
• Afraid of getting hurt
• Afraid of losing yourself
• Afraid of being controlled
• Afraid of losing control
• Afraid of being alone
• Afraid of being abandoned
• Afraid of being engulfed or invaded
• Afraid of not being loveable
• Afraid of failing at love

BEING ATTRACTED TO THE WRONG PERSON:

However this might happen as a result of environment. you then decide to settle for the little or go through the saying that says “if you don’t get what you want like what you get”
Engaging in a distant relationship; May be your parents were in a distant relationship (your mom and dad were not leaving together).Accepting this as normal way of being in a relationship can hinder you from finding your true love. But the good news is that you can learn to give to yourself what your parents could not give you (which are what you will be getting from http://HowToFindYourTrueLove.blogspot.com)
Internal obstacles; These include sick, mental disorder, experience and Family background

LIMITING BELIEF AND OTHER LIMITING BLOCKS:

Fears and limiting beliefs make it hard to act naturally and be ourselves, embrace opportunities, see things clearly, have the courage to let go of relationships that don't serve us, and cause us to sabotage ourselves. The first thing to realize is that even though there is a part of you that greatly longs for finding and being with the love of your life, there is another part of you that is scared of it as well. In fact, you are probably not even aware of all the fears that you have around love that are getting in your way!

LIMITING BELIEFS AROUND LOVE:

In addition to fears, limiting beliefs about what is possible can be a significant obstacle. Here are some of the more common ones:
• All the good ones are taken
• I'm not worthy of love
• I'm not good enough to be loved by someone I really want
• I'm too old
• There are not enough (wo)men to go around
• I'm not good at relationships
• I'm not attractive enough to find a good partner
• Men aren't interested in committing
• Men are only interested in sex
• Women are more interested in my money than in me
• There are not enough people in my area.

HOW FEARS AND LIMITING BELIEF AFFECT YOU IN YOUR LOVE LIFE:

Let's look specifically at how fears and limiting beliefs can interfere with connecting with
desirable people and develop healthy relationships with them. We'll re-examine the difficult romantic scenario from this perspective.
First of all, limiting beliefs like "all of the good ones are taken" or "I'm not attractive enough to get a good partner" could potentially stop you at the earliest possible point in the process of finding your love--putting yourself out there. If you stay home most of the time and/or avoid contact with people in public, nothing will be able to happen.
If you have an underlying fear of getting hurt, you may get anxious when an attractive person talks to you. You can also get anxious if you have an underlying belief that you are not worthy of love. Being anxious makes it very hard to be relaxed and be yourself. Not feeling worthy of love or feeling unlovable will cause you to try and "be lovable" to the other person. This means trying to do things that you think the other person may like. Needless to say, you are not being yourself in this situation. This also makes you come across as needy and/or insecure, which may be a turn-off to the other person. What you really want is for the other person to just like you, not to have to do things to "try to be likable."Please note that many good people suffer from the limiting belief that they are not lovable deep down. There's this sense that if you really knew me, you wouldn't love me. If you identify with this at all, you are not alone. The thing is, it is not the truth of who you are! The belief comes from childhood wounds, which can be healed with EFT and TAT. You would then be in touch with the goodness that all of your friends see in you. Let's look a little further at the unhappy romantic scenario. If you have a fear of being alone, you might tend to overlook "red flag" questionable behaviors in order to have someone to be with. This could result in getting into an unhealthy relationship and make it hard to leave it later.

PROTECTING YOURSELF BY AVOIDING GETTING EMOTIONAL INVESTED WITH YOUR LOVER:

There is another way that your fears can affect your love life. Your fears may cause you to get together with people that you are not very excited about. They may be nice, good people that you can enjoy being with, but you know that they are not the one for you. You do this subconsciously as a way of protecting yourself from getting hurt, but you'll never be satisfied. You'll stay safe but uninspired. It is also possible to find someone great but keep your heart protected by staying reserved and not letting yourself get emotionally invested. Clearly, this will sabotage the relationship in the long run.

ALIGNING YOUR LIVE TO ATTRACT YOUR SOULMATE:

Let's talk about a powerful concept called the Law of Attraction (described in the book and movie called The Secret) and how it affects attracting love into your life.
The Law of Attraction states that we will attract into our lives things that match our "vibration." In other words, things in the outside world that have a similar vibration to our own will naturally be drawn to us. So, what is meant by "VIBRATION"?
All of your thoughts, feelings, desires and intentions have a vibration associated with them. This is the vibration that is being matched in the outside world. So, how does this work in practice? What this means in practice is that whatever is consistently and predominantly in your conscious and subconscious mind will be drawn into your life.
You may be thinking...So Judethink, are you saying that if I think about and put my intention on finding the love of my life, that "vibration" will attract my love to me? Because if you are, I can tell you that it's not working. I have been thinking about being with the love of my life all the time, but that special person has not appeared...

THE SECRET TO THE SECRETS:

I can understand why you might think that the Law of Attraction is not working for you since you are not with the love of your life. However, the Law of Attraction is in effect all of the time, but, sadly, you may not be fully aware of where your attention really lies.
You see, when you think about something that you want, your attention can either mostly be on the pleasures of having what you want or the unhappiness of not having what you want. The Law of Attraction will then bring more of what you are predominantly focused on into your life.

(EXERCISE: Imagine Being with your Desired Love now; When you imagined having your soulmate in your life, were you feeling happy, excited, warm, contented or other positive feelings? Or were your feelings ones of fear, discouragement, sadness, or were you even having a hard time imagining fulfilling that goal? Or you may have been having a mix of both positive and negative feelings. Your emotional reaction to imagining having your desired goal serves as your "Emotional Guidance System" letting you know where your vibration is regarding that goal. If your feelings are predominantly positive, then you are in alignment with attracting the fulfillment of your goal into your life according to the Law of Attraction. If your feelings are mixed or negative, then you'll get mixed or negative results. It's very helpful to know where you stand in this area so that you can do something about it).

A LIVING EXAMPLE OF LAW OF ATTRACTION:

Let me give you an example so that you can see how the Law of Attraction can work. A client of mine, "AKIN," was using dating sites with zero results for a couple of months. He had a very nicely worded profile and good pictures, but no women were contacting him and none were responding to his emails. It turned out that he still felt romantically attached to his last girlfriend. We did one session on releasing that attachment. The very next day, he sent out two emails and both women responded! That same day he was also contacted by a woman that he had been planning on writing to but hadn't gotten to yet! This was a powerful example of the Law of Attraction in action. The Law of Attraction doesn't always happen quite that fast, but this gives you a clear idea of how it can work. Next, we will look at what to do when your feelings are mixed or negative and/or not sufficiently positive when thinking about having your love in your life.

MAKING THE LAW OF ATTRACTION WORK FOR YOU:

We will now talk about how to make the Law of Attraction work more to your benefit to attract the love of your life. Remember that the Law of Attraction states that we will attract into our lives things that match our "vibration." The question then becomes how do you move your vibration in a positive direction? The short answer is to reduce the negative feelings and increase the positive feelings.

REDUCING YOUR NEGATIVE VIBRATIONS:

In the last lesson you did the exercise of imagining being with the love of your life and noticing what feelings came up. Any negative feelings that came up represent a negative vibration around love, which will attract more of the same. These negative feelings can be addressed with EFT and TAT. Unfortunately, it is beyond the scope of this mini e-course to get into the details of how to do that, but the good news is that it can be accomplished quite readily with EFT and TAT. You are welcome to read about how to reduce negative feelings with EFT on this web site: http://www.eft-alive.com Check out the "How to Do EFT" page and read the article How to pick effective EFT tapping phrases. This will get you started.

INCREASING POSITIVE VIBRATION FOR ATTRACTING LOVE:

There are a number of different ways to increase your positive vibration to help attract love into your life. There are methods that make good use of EFT as well as non-EFT methods. I will share one non-EFT method with you here. One way to increase your positive vibration for attracting love into your life is to make your positive vibration clearer and stronger. You can do this by creating a "vision" of your partner. You do this by imagining the characteristics of your partner and how it would feel to be with that person. You are not thinking of a specific person here. You are imagining the qualities of the love of your life. You then need to make this vision more concrete. One way to do this is to write your vision down on a piece of paper. Another way to do this is to create a "vision board," which is collage of pictures and words that represent your life partner vision. Once you have made your vision concrete in one of those ways, you will want to strengthen or "REFRESH" it every day. Take a moment each day to reread your written vision or look at your vision board and reinforce the good feelings that go along with it. Focus on the good feelings associated with the vision. Once a day for 30 seconds will be sufficient, and it's helpful to do it at the same time to make a habit out of it. This will strengthen your positive vibration and attract your partner into your life sooner. Note: If you have negative feelings start to come up while doing this daily practice, then they will need to be addressed as described above. There are EFT-based ways to enhance this process as well as other Law of Attraction methods to bring your special person to you quicker.

WHERE DO YOU GO FROM HERE:

This mini e-course has given you a much deeper understanding of the things that may be interfering with your search for finding your true love. If you've done the exercises, you now have a good start
on identifying your own personal obstacles to finding love. The great news is that you can remove your obstacles using the power of EFT and have the love and life of your dreams!

I hope that you found this e-course helpful. For more resources to help you find the love of your life, Continue visiting my blog http://HowToFindYourTrueLove.blogspot.com

From judethink Jude passionately committed to helping you find your true love.

How To Find Your True Love.

How to Find Your True Love

2009-09-30T20:58:00.000-07:00

How to find your true love:
To Find Your True Love, these are not to be ignored.
1. know yourself:

First you need to know yourself pretty well. Understand your strengths and weaknesses and love yourself. When you know yourself very well, it gives you the impression that you can stand the outcome of the approach (because some people can behave extra harsh sometimes. If you don't know yourself then you don't know how to keep yourself happy. And by not knowing how to keep yourself happy - you become too dependant on someone else to do it and/ or you fall for people who make you miserable or disappoint you all the time.
2. Find someone that you find really attractive:
Once you find someone that you feel like can make you happy - you maintain a solid relationship by learning everything you can about the person. Learn about how he/she react when they are happy, when they are sad, when they are angry when they are dissapointed, when they are frustrated... all that and never be ignorant of these points. Learn what makes them that way and how to avoid it if it bothers them, cope with it when they need you, and enhance it when they are feeling good. That makes you a good lover and shows that you are building a true love based relationship.

3. Do not be selfish:
Selfishness can cause a great harm to your relationship so try as much as possible to avoid this.
How do you learn to cope when things are rocky?(so as not become selfish) If you pay enough attention to the things that upset you and the things that upset the other person - then you also know what to do and what not to do when things are rocky. Learn to forgive and move forward? People make mistakes and none is perfect. But if you love someone enough - you will forgive them eventually.This shows that you care about the other person.

To find your true love, can be really demanding, but when it pays, its worth it.if you find my tips helpful, do visit again for update.

How to Find Your True Love.

How to Find Your True Love

2009-09-30T16:45:00.001-07:00

How To Find Your True Love.
To find your true Love, first impression matters a lot. But you only have one chance to create that impression. So in your quest to finding your true love, you have to present the right image any were you go. This include the way you dress, talk, walk etc. The following tips will help you make the approach in a more polite and enticing manner.

Step 1
Be yourself. Never pretend to be something you're not to get someone to like you. You can't have true love if the other person doesn't know the real you. Even if you think you're totally unlovable, rest assured, there IS someone out there who will love you just as you are. This also includes your ability to be bold and willing to accept challenges.
Step 2
Watch for fakers and Try to avoid them. Not only should you be true to who YOU are, you should look for others who are true to themselves as well. If they're pretending to be something they're not, it will lead to issues later.
Step 3
Don't use sex as a way to get to love. True love is a balance of physical attraction, complimenting personalities, emotional connection and other factors. A relationship based on sex is not likely to lead to love, especially if you've given sex as a way to get them to like you in the first place.
Step 4
If you have a “type”, forget about it. Limiting yourself to finding someone who has a certain physical appearance or job is going to hold you back in the long run. You may find your true love to be someone you never would have expected.
Step 5
Keep an open mind at all times. Your true love may be your best friend, your current worst enemy, that person you hardly ever notice, or anyone in the world. This goes right along with the “type” issue. Never limit yourself. Have you ever wondered how people that don't look like they belong together ARE together in happy relationships? It's because they had an open mind and didn't let a lack of initial attraction stop them from getting to know someone and falling in love.
Step 6
Find someone you can talk to. Communication is critical to a long-lasting relationship. Keep your eyes open for someone you can speak freely with, who really “gets” you. If they can make you laugh when you're down as well, you might have a real catch.
Finding your true Love can be a little stressful but be focus and keep visiting this blog for daily updates and tips to make the journey a easier for you.
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HEALTHY DATING AND PERFECT RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR TRUE LOVE

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